Voyagner

I wanted to weigh in quickly on today’s post by Sean Ogle, What defines success? And the comment quoted..

“…you’re just a kid who was likely pampered his whole life growing up, and finally when it was time to be an adult, you had a hard time facing the music that in the real world, nobody cares how much fun you have at your job. You either do it well, or you get fired.”

We’ll just ignore the first part because it is a pathetic cheap shot and, well you know what they say about arguing on the internet. I too care if I have fun while doing my job, I also agree that in the “real world”, “nobody cares how much fun you have at your job. You either do it well, or you get fired.” But just because that is so does not make it right, personally I do care if you have fun in your job. If you don’t, I really encourage you to do something about it.

I don’t live in the real world, in my world people do give a shit about the lives of others and their happiness, thankfully there are others who inhabit this world, I am not alone. It’s a case of “be the change you want to see in the world” but we like to take our medicine with a dash of reality. We know others do see it the same way and we know that the others can’t accept that we see it like that.

This is just another case of someone getting their knickers in a twist when someone else makes a lifestyle choice different to the template they have built their own around (and they say they don’t care about your happiness).

It doesn’t just come from people outside of our little community. Last week I didn’t post, for one it just wasn’t happening for me but I was also demoralized by a comment from someone I respect. I’d like to say I’ve learned a lot from it but the truth is I haven’t figured it out yet, does the guy just not like me? I may be reading it wrong (I can’t even tell if it was directed at me), maybe I just need to engage with him more.

What I did learn is that people, even those who you expect to know better tend to react rather than respond. It’s a very human thing to do and most of the time we aren’t even aware we are doing it but trying to be aware and take a moment to consider before responding can save you from putting your foot in it and only later realizing you missed the point.

From inside and outside, knowingly or unknowingly, people will say you can’t, shouldn’t or won’t succeed. Success is not a number, a certificate or a promotion, success is being happy.

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” Herman Cain